Grandpa's Take

"Be the change you wish to see in the world", Ghandi

Grandpa says these are words to live by:

The belief that if you do not like a quality in another human, look within yourself first and find it, fix it, work at it, the next time you look back at the other person you will see them healed of the blemish as well.

We humans have so much luggage we carry and accrue, we have past misdeeds, we have past errors committed, we have our own very real faults we are aware of and wish didn't exist, we have many misunderstandings of eachother, be it body language, words spewed in poor timing,
mountains made out of molehills, and sometimes we have all of it. Tolerance becomes extinct.

My brothers, my husband, my own son have always been amazed at my capacity to understand and forgive others, for just about anything. My own sister has labeled me the family chump, even though in truth she is standing right next me when I am in the dung pile, we laugh cause we're both labeled bitches, and on kind occassions evil twins, but in truth we both are highly re-slient and loving creatures, we are out to love and be loved somewhat back by our families and our friends. Maybe it's the quality of mischief we carry with us.

I have been accused of being being a hugging, smiling hyprocrite, embracing people I don't really like, the answer to that charge would go back to " Is the cup 1/2 empty, or is the cup 1/2 full?
In truth it is not an accurate description of who my inner child is: My inner child hugs and loves, and talks and walks with seeing the best of a human, not the worst. , overlooking a bad mood when I am hugging them and trying to drag them into my light, embrassing the meanest mooded and reminding them I love them very much for their best qualities, and I overlook their shadowed and embittered side.

When my own family has dark feeling evoked, I chip away at them with this same re-slient, peace, love, dove old hippy persuasion until they can see the humor of how short life is, and why it's best to embrace all the good things now.

I can honestly say in this life I've had few regrets, and am only answerable to my spouse for any of them (no not what you assume, other regrets),
So I do love my familes, I do overlook the naughty as one day they may overlook some of mine,
I do think some need to take a day and go think it out, really try to look at things from other perspectives in order to gain insight into their own conducts of future, I try to do this myself, an old habit from when I was self employed calling "critiqueing", it holds me in balance to a bettered degree just as Grandpa's Iodine theory is needed when I start going ballistic on the entire world, and I'm ready to cry at the drop of hat.....and ready to murder anyone in my path, I think Iodine????? Three days and we're good.

I don't pretend to be able to explain this theory of granpa's very well, only the best for how I have grasped it: But look within for the flaws you see in others * Fix your own, and slowly it will evolve a better picture or vision of the others.

And maybe always critque yourself a bit, too. It's time I am taking a week to go do just that, I am taking a week to think. The past few weeks have been overwhelming, I am beat up and need to regroup. Of course there's so many of us we could form a club.
Our club could be named "Family".