Memorials to you and your life

I Shall pass this way but once, any kindness I can do, let me do it now.

No doubt we've all managed our sorrows in different ways, some of us more loving because of your loves, and some us becoming embittered by your passing, unable to process past what's gone from our lives, long enough to see what you left in our lives.

And so we all had our own very memorials to you as well, just a time to gather and remember different aspects, different times.

Before gathering at the diner she did invite your sisters, apparently they could not come, one answering and one not. She invited different nieces as well who did drive out, many of them had been counseled by you throughout the years, and are stronger women for it. They love you well as you never judged them or condemned them for their off paths., you simply took the patience to tell them where they might head for the next chapter.

Slightly before we left the diner, 2 women, your co-workers from the Post Office came in for breakfast, many of your old friends visit with your lady and son, but to your lady one of these was very special: She is the kind woman that helped her through all of your paperwork: medical forms up the kazoo due to government red tapes, and all of the paperwork after you left through the portal, this woman was amazingly kind and helpful to your family. She spoke of all the changes since you've been gone and how you wouldn't like many of them, she spoke of layoffs being conducted instead day cut backs, she spoke of your replacement who could never replace you, but it was sweet these two women had planned their outing with you in mind. It was a pleasant surprise to see how much simple co-workers miss you, and valued you.

Your lady and I then sat quietly back at your home you made for the family, for the afternoon listening to some wonderful CD's you had made of music, one of all your music, one of all her musics, and one of all your various songs enjoyed together. And we laughed about many of the memories associated with those days of old, including men's moves for dancing. She doesn't know when you made them all but it had to be recently judging by some of the songs, and she's happy for it, it leaves another one of your thoughts and surprises for her.

We celebrated your life and your impact upon all of us, we were a long way off from last years fish fry celebration a whole family affair, but we did do the best possible day considering where we've gotten to. The starkness and loneliness caused by lacks of understandings, and indifference's has become overwhelming. I've been there twice and despite sitting out, it's become a ghost town.

No butterflies came, but the full moon winds on friday night gave us pause to remember when the 8 flew off two years ago, that it was such a sign that nothing would ever be the same again,
You had left our daily paths, and without the reassurances that your whole being gave us, we do seem to be very lost.

We need to find a good path.....we need to keep seeing the beauty of life and people.
And so how do you start a group hug? You start with one, two, three, four, five, six.......